Last-minute changes can really throw you for a loop.
Especially if it happens without warning.
Now, you could complain and stubbornly try to stick to your guns as you ride it out, or you can purposefully look for opportunities to learn, grow, and test yourself.
One attitude will keep you resentful and wary of the future.
The other will keep you positive and excited for what's to come.
I know what I'd prefer to be.
Winning a Person Over or Winning an Argument? They Aren't The Same.
If you're trying to win an argument, you need facts.
If you're trying to win a person over, you need far more than that.
Even though we like to think we make our decisions based on facts, the final deciding factor is very often based on an emotion.
A person can have all the information pointing towards a certain action, but still not want to do it.
For example, you can present scientific evidence to a smoker about how harmful smoking is, show them statistics of diseases and deaths caused by smoking, even impose fines and penalties on them.
But they're not going to stop smoking.
Some even argue back, that their uncle or someone they know lived to nearly a hundred years old despite being a smoker, that they have always been healthy and have no illnesses, that they can afford to pay if they have to.
Mere facts aren't going to change their behaviour.
And facts aren't going to sustain them through the difficulties they'll be going through should they change their behaviour.
In the case of smokers, that may include the withdrawal symptoms, the perceived "loss of face" for always previously refusing to quit, the loss of time spent with their smoke buddies, etc.
To truly change their behaviour, something has to strike them emotionally.
It can be nearly any emotion:
Fear of getting sick after they see a beloved relative get ill, or of dying after getting sick themselves.
Anger at wanting to prove their friends wrong, after being told that they will always be a slave to tobacco.
Love for their newborn child, with a desire for him/her to grow up in a healthier smoke-free environment.
That emotion is not only a stronger force for change, it is a greater sustaining force for the difficulties they'll experience while they are changing.
And you can be sure that manipulative people and groups know this well. Why do you think they keep bringing up emotional arguments, instead of factual ones?
So, if you really want to make positive change for yourself and/or those around you, appealing to emotions, backed up by some solid facts (because some of us really do want / need them) is the strongest way to go.
It isn't a one-or-the-other thing, it's a co-operative thing. Both work best in tandem.